You’ve given me a lot to think about with this one—the art of storytelling, monopolizing the room, the loneliness of aging, the power of memory, and how some of us make connections in speech that are coherent and some do not. The guy in the bookstore…I wonder what his story is, though I wouldn’t have asked. I would have joined you in the back of the bookstore, too. Thanks for another thought-provoking read.
Every frame of the day is like that, don't you think? Who is that woman walking her dog? What's going on with that couple in the restaurant who aren't speaking to each other? Part of me was really interested in the ranter but I couldn't tolerate the sound of his voice.
Another good one Susie! I do think people need to be more conscious about real conversation; so many are afraid to ask questions but that's how we really meet. I miss talking with you!
Thanks, Signe. We will be in Great Barrington October 17-26. Plans are mostly up in the air at this point, but let's you and I arrange for a time for tea.
I have found that since Chris died and more importantly since I emerged from the dark hole that swallowed me alive…..people seem to feel very comfortable doing all the talking…..definitely one sided ……and I wonder if they are afraid that if they leave space for me I might “go there”. And then they will have to go deeper to respond to me…..Just a thought that Paul and I ponder a lot…..🤔
But before they might feel they have to respond, they just have to be present and listen which seems to be so challenging. It sounds like people fill all the available space out of discomfort. It's yet another responsibility that falls on the mourner...making other people feel ok.
You’ve given me a lot to think about with this one—the art of storytelling, monopolizing the room, the loneliness of aging, the power of memory, and how some of us make connections in speech that are coherent and some do not. The guy in the bookstore…I wonder what his story is, though I wouldn’t have asked. I would have joined you in the back of the bookstore, too. Thanks for another thought-provoking read.
Every frame of the day is like that, don't you think? Who is that woman walking her dog? What's going on with that couple in the restaurant who aren't speaking to each other? Part of me was really interested in the ranter but I couldn't tolerate the sound of his voice.
Great read and lots to ponder about how older doesn't always mean wiser.
No argument there. Isn't it great how there are stories everywhere?
We are getting used to it and even laugh and share stories with each other now (my husband and I). Thanks, Susie….I showed your writing to Paul.
Another good one Susie! I do think people need to be more conscious about real conversation; so many are afraid to ask questions but that's how we really meet. I miss talking with you!
Thanks, Signe. We will be in Great Barrington October 17-26. Plans are mostly up in the air at this point, but let's you and I arrange for a time for tea.
Definitely!
I have found that since Chris died and more importantly since I emerged from the dark hole that swallowed me alive…..people seem to feel very comfortable doing all the talking…..definitely one sided ……and I wonder if they are afraid that if they leave space for me I might “go there”. And then they will have to go deeper to respond to me…..Just a thought that Paul and I ponder a lot…..🤔
But before they might feel they have to respond, they just have to be present and listen which seems to be so challenging. It sounds like people fill all the available space out of discomfort. It's yet another responsibility that falls on the mourner...making other people feel ok.