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You really touched a chord. Maybe I should say you and Reyi. It's such a tender story and reaches people in a place they may not even have known they were reachable. Thank you and Happy New Year.

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Lovely story Carmen. You should consider yourself a writer.

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Thank you Glynnis, I look forward to the day I can consider myself “something”, am mindfully and gratefully working on it!

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Beautiful and meaningful, Carmen. Thank you.

Rachel

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Thank you Rachel, may our stories serve to inspire and heal us🙏

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Thank you dear people for your comments. I write mostly as an excuse to give myself permission to be alone. Amazing that at my age I still feel the need to ask for permission just to be by myself! May the New Year bring us all renewed hope and energy, and the desire and willingness to be true to ourselves. With love and best wishes🙏💕

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Hi Carmen, What a lovely story. As Mary said the words she quoted spoke to me as well. My Mother could not acknowledge the pain of losing her mother and father as a teenager. She didn't talk about it - but she also couldn't show her love in ways that would have made a difference to her children.

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Hi Janice, so true, the places where we hurt the most are the places we close off to love without even realizing how we short change ourselves and those we “love”. I am so grateful for all the healing information and resources that are now available and that our generation is more open to talk about healing the past. Love and blessings to you and your family🙏💕

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Hi Carmen, I am 85 years old - or young - and the healing has been a life long process. There certainly are many more resources available than there were - thank goodness.

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Our dogs ( and cats) fill our lives and teach us such life lessons.

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Hi Kathy, yes indeed, Reyi has been teacher, therapist, rescuer and companion.

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"In that moment with Reyi, I finally felt how much she had loved me and how her incapacity to be of comfort and to be present with my pain only stemmed from her inability to acknowledge her own. I started to cry for her and then for the first and last time, I cried not for what I had lost, but for what I had never had." Your words spoke to me. And for this, I thank you.

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Hi Mary, I have no doubt Reyi came into my life to help me feel the pain that had long been buried and desperately needed to be acknowledged and healed. Blessings and love on your own healing journey🙏💕

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Beautiful story Carmen. I too have deeply loved a rescue dog. He died four years ago but the love remained.

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Hi Alice, I don’t know if Reyi will ever act like a “normal” dog, but he has certainly been a great teacher in loving unconditionally and I can’t imagine life without him. I’m sorry for your loss and grateful for the reminder that the love will always remain🙏

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Oh how lovely this story is. I so resonated with the struggle of helping a rescue dog feel safe. And, shamefully, with the yelling. And then my heart just broke open when you recognized the incapacity your mom felt to help you was what you were experiencing with Reyi. And then the healing cry for what you'd never had. Those are so powerful. To acknowledge and accept. Such brave writing, thank you!

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Thank you dear Jocelyn, your words mean a lot to me given this was my first foray into writing and not having had any idea wether my story would resonate with anyone. This is a lovely community. Best wishes to you🙏💕

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Oh I'm so glad and thank you! All the best to you too! ❤

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What an inspiring story and testament to the power of patience and persistent love.

Thanks for this new year gift.

And like it or not, you are a fine writer.

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Ay Betsy, I miss you and our friendship is also a testament to the power of patience (yours with all my comings and goings) and persistent love. I am grateful for the gift of you, Happy New Year and may it be “hasta pronto”!🙏💕🌺

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