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Susie Kaufman's avatar

So great to have Frank's writing on seventysomething. He has what amounts to total recall of a time and place that resonates deeply for many other people and opens up a whole other world for those of us stuck uptown.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thanks for featuring my work. Brooklyn, at least in the '50s, is definitely downtown.

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Peggy Braun's avatar

Great writing, Frank. Women have their own communities but not based on survival. It's interesting to read how men find each other at such deep levels.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thanks Peggy. If men's communities are based on survival and I think to a great extent they are, what do you think is the bedrock of women's communities?

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Peggy Braun's avatar

Support and sharing feelings. You know how we are with feelings: feeliings, feelings, feelings.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

In my experience men do look to other men for support. Feelings, those of us that feel, usually engage with women.

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betsy mctiernan's avatar

Thanks for sharing this story. It's tempting to think of those days as freer for young people than today. But when you speak of Vietnam, the story quickly shifts to how scary life was for so many young men.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Vietnam was a very scary place. My Brooklyn neighborhood, Bushwick, was cool but in the mid-late '50s when we traveled to places like Bed-Stuy or the Lower East Side to score things always felt pretty dicey.

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Sharon Coleman's avatar

Beautiful, Frank. I truly enjoy your Brooklyn stories. And of course, knowing you now as the writer who has gone through many lifetimes.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thank you Sharon. Brooklyn in the 1950s, a time and place that no longer exists, but that I had the good fortune to be a part of was a magical place. It was home, and always felt that way until it didn't. Wonderful to hear from you as you live through your own Italian adventures. Hope you and Nelson are well.

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Zingy Guy's avatar

Frankie, Good work! zingy guy

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thanks Larry. Glad you enjoyed it.

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Jan Peppler's avatar

Thank you for this, Frank. Visceral and poignant.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thanks Jan. Appreciate your response.

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Nina Moore's avatar

Your writing brings me back to “the neighborhood “ seems like several lifetimes ago but so vividly described by you. Thanks for digging in the roots—a good reminder of where it all began.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

One of the things I find most interesting about the neighborhood is that I rarely forget a particular event. If I remember that something took place, than I can picture it and put it into words

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Minx's avatar

Powerful and provocative writing. I grew up in Brooklyn too, but in a different world from yours. Your story gave me a visceral sense of what it meant to grow up in the world where gangs and toughness were central. Thank you for channeling all that you experienced into the power of words.

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Frank Gioia's avatar

Thank you Minx. Appreciate the feedback. Where in Brooklyn did you grow up and when?

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Minx's avatar

Grand Army Plaza. Born 1945. Went to Ethical Culture School, then Adelphi Academy. After I read your piece, I was reflecting on the vastness between your experience and mine. And the world views that arose out of those perspectives… And how in the world can we find ways to listen and expand in order to understand? Minx@CoachMinx.com.

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