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Crowsfeetchronicles's avatar

Beautiful! You describe the slow slide of aging so well

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Thank you for reaching out. One never knows on this side of the screen...so hearing from readers means a great deal.

Sonia Pilcer's avatar

Loved the image of the pickup sticks.

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Thank you. I like it because it conveys the fragility of everything and the interdependence. One false move and the whole thing comes tumbling down.

morton makler's avatar

I am so with you. Have said that before?

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Humor goes a long way and you have always been a master.

Rita C's avatar

Certain writings fill the heart, as yours invariably do, Susan. I read this piece in late morning, and am reading it again this evening. My heart was filled twice. Repetition can be good.🙏

Incidentally, the second time you asked, the young graduate could have further expanded on his cartography degree and area(s) of specialization.

Susie Kaufman's avatar

I love that instruction..."repetition can be good." The trick is not to become bored with one's own preoccupations. Sharing them with receptive others such as yourself goes a long way.

S Schaefer's avatar

Ah Susie, how many of your readers would even notice if you repeated yourself?? Your writing is so alive and true and full of questions that need to be (re)considered. Thank you once again!

Susie Kaufman's avatar

There's always a small voice that demands variety, buzz. I know it's not the most meaningful message I need to hear as a writer, but it does swarm around from time to time. I try to keep in mind that the tag line of seventysomething is "memory, aging in amazement and the inner life." If I stick with that, I'm usually ok.

Rebecca Kalb's avatar

Are you living in my head? 🤣Thanks for the experience of feeling known.

Susie Kaufman's avatar

It's a blessing to meet you in there.

Nina Moore's avatar

I got stuck at hippie wedding. All I could think of was yours and Frank’s. Now that’s a story I could tell again and again, but maybe I have and don’t remember.

Susie Kaufman's avatar

It was Al Silverstein and Laura Dubester who married in their forties. Big party! Love it that you remember our wedding (lobster tails?) so fondly. I remember when you and Gary got married in that little village church. Might have been around the same time??

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Many thanks

Daryl Solomonson's avatar

Susie, I’m sitting here reading Regime Change by Maggie Haberman and Jonathan Swan and your thought about

repeating one self is so evident in our President's head. As we enter the 80’s many things change, memory fades some, health changes along with our routines. Some we control others not so much. I liked your thought about repeating one’s self and then having volunteers filling in. I haven’t noticed that in reading your work. Continue as you have, we keep enjoying the read!

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Daryl.....Are you saying that he's aware of repeating himself? I wonder. I wonder what his experience of aging is really like. Thanks for your encouragement..SK

Sonia Pilcer's avatar

In my poem Refugees, I used a similar image. “We were severed limbs of a tree/ Pick-up sticks to pyromaniacs….”

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Can you send me the poem? Thanks.

Susan Spiegel Solovay's avatar

Susie, you have captured this time in our lives so aptly, so humorously, so truthfully. From one of your pickup sticks :-)

Susie Kaufman's avatar

So good to hear from you. I don't think I had any idea when I was younger how powerful the concept of an age cohort could be.

Vicky's avatar

Susie, I've not been reading your essays for very long but, 1) imho, if you are repeating yourself I'm here for it and 2) my 69 y/o brain is much less agile than your 80(?) y/o one.

I'd venture to say that your musings about the boat of life heading toward the horizon are interesting to most of your readers and it's natural for us to circle around same or similar thoughts that relate to the big unknown. Thanks for your thoughtfulness and your beautiful writing

Susie Kaufman's avatar

Appreciate your support, Vicky. Repeating oneself in person is a commonplace of aging, but not everyone has a regular presence in print. It makes me wonder if there's something else I might want to think about, talk about, write about. But apparently not!